Virtually Yours
Move over S, the new man in my life is Mr. T aka Mr.
Twitter. I’ve spent all of the past few days since I’ve signed up, doing
nothing but reading up stuff on my Twitter timeline besides learning the
protocol of Twitterdom. Yup, RT is retweet… why is there no ‘Twitter for dummies’
note out there?
Mr. S’s main fear when he met me was that I’d find him
boring. Well, talk about a self –fulfilling
prophecy; Mr. S is not a patch on Mr. T who has something new to say every
second. In fact it’s almost overwhelming; I’ll be reading an article and half way
through, there are 20 new tweets demanding my attention. Abha Dawesar in this fascinating
TED talk on living in the ‘digital’ world distinguishes between the ‘digital’
now and the ‘now’ in the real world. She likens love to ‘attention’ and being
totally present to another in ‘real time’.
One can 'follow' on Twitter and friend / unfriend on Facebook on
a whim with just the click of a button. I
love that feature, I just wish I could do that as easily in the real world - “You
dork – I zap you to the ends of cyberspace, away from my timeline; may your
feeds burn in hell”
According to ‘Uberfacts’ on Twitter, 5 people were killed
because they unfriended someone on Facebook! I can quite understand that –
given my obsession and grief over being ‘unfriended’ recently on Facebook by someone I liked. For me, it was a very real
experience and a very real relationship. There is, in fact, a whole new breed of
consultants and experts on dating and online relationships. Dr. Sheri Myers in
her book ‘Chatting or Cheating’ talks of how cyber affairs are increasingly
becoming common and offers tips on how to ‘cyber-affair’ proof your relationship.
So how real or unreal are relationships
that are virtual?
Joaquin Phoenix’s love affair with a computer in the movie
‘HER’ was certainly real to him. We have
cyber affairs and cyber breakups; the only thing that is missing is cyber kids
which incidentally are not too far off. The Japanese have developed the ‘Tamagotchi’
which is an egg shaped toy that needs to be fed, nurtured and taken care off
else it will ‘die’ like a child.
Well Desi Brigit Jones is not
having any kids; I’m going to have some ‘Tamagotchi’ and will name them after
my various online beaus. Being a good catholic, I shall also ensure that they’re
baptized; oops – this brings on another conundrum – my Tamagotchi are all
illegitimate in the eyes of the church!
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Brigit: I’ve spent all day with Mr. T. It’s now past 10pm on
a Friday night and I’m talking to you. I feel like I’m living a virtual life in more
ways than one.
God: Well, aren’t I an interesting bloke to talk to? Better
than Mr. T I bet!
Brigit: Kind of – at least you’re listening to me. In fact I
think you’re the best of the lot. I say we get into a relationship.